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The inner Patriarch

See www.growingaware.net  for much more information on the characteristics of these two destructive characters and to learn how to identify them at work inside you.

Characteristics of the inner patriarch

The overriding characteristic of the inner patriarch is that when he sets up his house inside a woman's inner village his overriding loyalty is not to her but to the men around her and to maintaining their power and control over all women, including the way they think and feel and what they make of their lives. He unconditionally supports the dominance of the male hierarchy and the patriarchal lifestyle. Typically, when you listen to the inner patriarch you will notice him taking the side of another man or another patriarch living nearby in another person's inner village, in preference to the woman in whose village he has set up his house.

So, like the inner matriarch he is different from other Inner Protector characters in the Inner, Village in that he does not seem to be concerned with the well-being of the female selves and the wounded female inner child in the village. He will do nothing to assist in empowering other female villagers who live there. Rather he will do everything he can to keep them from feeling any sense of power, awareness or ability.

In a way it's as though he is carrying within him a deep-seated almost cellular fear, a fear that goes back more than 60,000 years to the earliest days of civilisation when females were regarded as having more power than males. (Because of their perceived superior ability to connect spiritually to the sky and the earth and their ability to bear children.) Typically his attitude is that his fear is justifiable and provides a reason to continuing to disempower all women and to maintain control over females and ensure that all their lives women will continue to adhere to male rules and male systems. This is the inner patriarch's way of reducing his fear. The fact that a wounded inner child is a female is sufficient reason to stir the fear of her innate power and this is spurs the inner patriarch into action.


He knows just where to apply his sword

The Inner Patriarch is also an expert in knowing where to apply his sword to inflict the worst pain and create the most destructive disharmony intended to wreck a relationship. Example: Jack’s response to Jill’s matriarch is not to address the matriarch herself but to attack Jill (who until a minute before he cared about very deeply). That’s how you know it’s his inner Patriarch who has jumped into the fight. The patriarch replies, “That’s insulting! How can you make a judgement about me without any evidence?”.

Jill’s inner child will feel the pain of Jack’s remark, but in fact something a bit more complex will be going on as we will explain later. It’s actually Jill’s inner patriarch who will apply the most hurtful slash of his sword to hurt her already wounded inner child, “Little Jill”

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This is such a significant  problem in many relationships that I have now devoted an entire website  to  the Inner matriarch and inner Patriarch problem

Rather than repeat these pages on this site can I ask you to go to my main website


I think you will be amazed at what you will discover